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Tidying Up My Social Media

Many of you are familiar with the little book that inspired people to declutter their lives and surround themselves with items that “spark joy”. While I’m a neat person by nature and don’t collect much, this book was a great reminder to stay the course. Recently, I decided to put it to use with my social media.

It all began last week after I shared a piece on my personal Facebook page titled, “What Do We Tell The Children?“. A piece that was written in response to a principal who was concerned about his students’ reactions to the election. I loved it and used parts of it with my daughters and students I work with every day. They came to school scared they would be deported and that their families would be torn apart.

I came home and checked my feed and found numerous posts referring to people like me who asked the question, “What do we tell our children?” Their opinion was parents and people like me needed to “get real.” Instead of responding (which I so badly wanted to do), I followed the KonMari method and decluttered my feed by unfollowing and unfriending people who just don’t share the same opinions.

Onto Twitter…

I use Twitter as a way to get news updates, connect with blogger friends and follow people who inspire. The issue with Twitter is you see Tweets that are in response to something you don’t know about. Maybe a person was attacked or bothered by an internet troll. But waking up to check news and the like, I found myself being yelled at in all caps. Not me personally, but me as a follower of someone or an organization who I value. I know emotions are high right now, but seeing tweets like,

“If you don’t believe XYZ, then wake the f*ck up!”

“If you think XYZ, get a f*cking clue!”

“If you are reading/not reading XYZ, you’re an idiot!”

And then the “you’re not (fill in the blank) doing enough, saying enough, fighting enough, yelling enough, being enough”.

I find it ironic that these people are using the very same approach of yelling, insulting and demeaning, when they despise it so much. Again, I KNOW it’s not aimed personally at me, but I can bet the people who need it the most are not following them. I am. And if I don’t share the exact same feelings or opinions, then my intelligence and worth are questioned.

So what if I want to read a “fluffy” book or get lost in a family saga. Does it mean I don’t care about the environment/social justice/education/women’s rights?

I decided to unfollow many Twitter accounts today. These are people or organizations who have thousands of followers. And they are screaming on my feed. I don’t need it. It doesn’t motivate or inspire me. It gives me anxiety.

Right now, what I know for sure is:

  • my daughters need parenting
  • my husband needs partnering
  • both our families need support
  • my friends need genuine friendships
  • my students need education
  • their families need advocacy
  • and most importantly, I need self care.

Everything else will get their due at some point. I’m not sure where I’m going to put additional energy at this time. I’m thinking it through. But if I want to curl up with a romance book and escape for a few hours, I get that right. If I want to continue this little “insignificant” blog with book reviews and simple posts, I will.

With my life and with this blog, I’m thinking of going back to basics. Focus on things that inspire, promote literacy, generate kindness and gush about books I love. I’m going to declutter this space and my mind by removing things that don’t “spark joy” anymore. That includes some social media. If you don’t find me there, you can always find me here. Where you found me first.



6 thoughts on “Tidying Up My Social Media

  1. I’ve been thinking about doing the same thing. Last week I started following more groups and people who seemed to share my feelings…and this week I am completely overwhelmed by the vitriol. Everyone seems to be in an understandable rage, and while I agree that none of this should be normalized in any way, how do we move forward? The simple fact is that I can’t be a ball of anxiety all the time and still be a productive citizen. I work from home so I just find myself scrolling endlessly and not getting anything else done. I want to do my part, but surely there must be some balance. Of course, I have the privilege of being white, so I can choose not to think about it occasionally. Except that I am still female, and I live in Georgia, and I don’t want anyone to think I’ve sided with the white Christian right here.

    Maybe in the short term getting back to books is the best way to provide a little respite to us all.

  2. Loving this. I’m having a hard time putting into words what I’m feeling and thinking right now, and I seem to oscillate between profound sadness, extreme anger, the intense desire to shut down completely, etc, etc, etc… Maybe I should do a little culling myself… 🙂

  3. Ha, my partner loves the KonMari method. I’ve always been a neat person so decluttering comes naturally to me. Minimalism pleases me. Sometimes I declutter too much and end up needing something I threw away.

    As for social media. I don’t really like them. I don’t do Twitter and basically ignore Facebook. They make me unhappy. Because of the distance of written communication through the Internet, people will write mean things they would never say face-to-face. So much vitriol comes out, even from people who have similar politics as me. It’s counterproductive because they are putting off their natural allies.

    But there is a benefit from all this. Transparency allows us to get better informed so we can get rid of “friends” who are not a good match.

    • Hi Alex!! I’ve done the same with “stuff”. I’ll look for it later and realize it was thrown out in my declutter frenzy.

      ” people will write mean things they would never say face-to-face”
      “It’s counterproductive because they are putting off their natural allies.”
      “But there is a benefit from all this. Transparency allows us to get better informed so we can get rid of “friends” who are not a good match.”

      You are wise, my friend.

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